We are Never Upset for the Reasons We think

 We are Never Upset for the Reasons We Believe

What does this Mean?

• We aren’t really upset with our Partner/Friend/Colleague
• Reliving Past Experiences – Its seems like the same
• It’s the memories Emotion/Though Memories that are Upsetting

Why does it happen?

• It’s a protection. A way of Defend the vulnerable scared parts inside
• We create these Psychological Defences
• We experience these defences through our bodily Sensations (emotional memories)
• Inner/Internal Model  – how we experience or perceive the world (see my article about Beliefs to learn more)

What can we do to Shift it?

Awareness – Truly a Game Changer

• It allows us to witness or experience ourselves with some space
• Bodily Awareness – Become aware of the somatic/nervous system impact things have on us
• Releasing Emotional Energy – Slowly Letting Energy out of the Balloon
• We experience things with Safety – Changing our Experience (What we take from the experience)
• Understand our thinking – To be become aware of thinking around our upset
• Personal Responsibility – Not responsibility for the entire situation but our Experience of it